Fear, anxiety, depression, pain, anger, etc are just a few things that result from abusing children.
A lot of people are carrying the pain of the past into the exhibition of the present creating an unpleasant future. to say the least.
We already have enough damaged people presently so what do you think the future would look like? Sigh!
Every time I think about this, I just have this heavy heart because love is looking more scanty while wickedness is the talk of the town.
You then begin to wonder, how did we get here? what happened. You can’t even love in peace anymore, anything small thing, the world just take advantage of your weak spot.
Everyone gets damaged more, nobody wants to talk about healing because retaliation is now the best answer but is it? Pain is now the food being served in society. wow I mean wow.
I can keep going on and on but let’s go back to the very beginning.
Child abuse is not just physical violence directed at a child.
It is any form of maltreatment by an adult, which is violent or threatening for the child, this includes neglect. We need to correct the notion that child abuse is only beating, it’s more than that. Verbal abuse is there, neglect too.
I have this story of a young girl, this young lad was full of joy at a very tender age trying to enjoy life at the very best her innocent parents could provide. A
t a very young age of 14, she was raped and sexually assaulted by two 17 and 19-year-old boys. Those boys threatened that if she tells anyone, she will die. Fear grips her heart, she kept to herself though her parents tried their best to connect with her, she was just too afraid.
She took the pain till she got to university level and vowed that any guy that proposed s*x to her will be killed. She did this till she was caught in her final years killing around 39 guys in total. When asked why she reflected on the pain she went through.
Similarly is the story of a young boy that was constantly verbally and physically brutalized by his stepsisters. Constant brutality from the age of 5 till the age of 15 years, you can imagine how much pain he had to endure.
The parents just neglected the boy and left him in the care of those tormentors, at least they were stepsisters. He carried the hunger for vengeance till he had enough of it. Took a knife one night and killed the sisters.
These are probably some extreme cases but whether we want to talk about it or not, we also have experienced abuse in one way or another and that has shaped our mentality or our way of living, some find an escape route to ease the pain rather than heal so they end up on drugs or becoming drunkards or outrightly stubborn.
A very good percentage of youths into things today are those that experienced abuse at a very tender age.
As of 2022, Nigeria is the tenth highest homicide rate in the world 34.52% per 100k persons with an average of 64,201 people. This narrative had to change.
How then has it affected this generation?
A while ago, I saw a post of a guy on Facebook that said “I didn’t enjoy fatherhood while I was growing up so my children too won’t” and I’m like, what is happening.
I was just staring at it in amusement, like is this how damaged the world is now? that because you experienced pain while growing up so your children to have, I mean if someone can say that to his/her offspring what’s then is the worth of a someone’s else child?
Thank God we have bodies that are beginning to stand up for rape in the country but rape is not only the form of abuse. A lot are verbally brutalized, and it’s has taken a toll on their mental well-being.
A lot of people don’t even take priority in healing again, they just want to do theirs back and you know what vengeance does, it keeps creating a cycle of pain.
The pain won’t stop, it’s just get transferred and it keeps going on and on. Ukraine is facing the same thing today.
Stop brutalizing children, even adults too. Adults are delicates too, let’s raise a generation of love and love starts from you and me.
Stop brutalizing children all in the name of playing, stop molesting them! it’s not necessary, stop teaching them damaged stuff. If you are in pain, meet a therapist and go through the headline process.
It is far much better to heal than to watch others in pain. Enjoy humanity. The same words go for adults too, don’t shame your friend in front of everyone because you want to shine, it’s toxic it’s bad.
If you don’t like something say it, Don’t bottle up guys express yourself properly. Let’s create a world where we can enjoy living in, a better place for all.